TALK? Why should I?

Let's talk about your pearl white teeth that you got after you emptied your father's pockets. Or maybe, let's just talk about the new hairdo you saw your friend get after she went for a trip to the United States. But boy, let's just talk. Because talking is all we need. At the moment. For the moment.

I have seen my and many more friendships die because the two people stopped communicating. Because they thought that the other person doesn't want to. Because maybe they thought their friendship wasn't worth talking anymore. But tell me, when have these assumptions helped anyone? Has it solved anything between two people? Has it ever? Has it given you some kind of inner peace to not talk and sit and just assume and satisfy yourself for a short period of time. Ultimately, you begin to doubt your assumptions. When the other person doesn't behave or react as per your pre-defined norms. So what do you do? Come up with some more, newer assumptions. Or just go and talk and clear it out, once and for all? Which one is the healthier option?

We all know the answer.

But still we keep fooling ourselves. Giving ourselves false hopes that things will be better one day. Maybe not now. Maybe not today. But tomorrow. They will. You will reunite with the one you think you miss. And maybe, is missing you well. We wait for a miracle to happen while we are busy assuming and overthinking useless things. Things that don't even make sense to us. But since they support our assumptions, we close our eyes and decide to see and believe in those things instead.

Time passes. We weigh our assumptions and the things and thoughts that supported them before. Doubts creep in. Nothing changed. Nothing happened. No miracles. Nothing. You are still the same person to your once upon a time friend.  What do you do now? Talk, maybe?

But why would you? It wasn't you who did something wrong. Then why should you be the one to break the ice.

Maybe the other person wasn't wrong either. You are not sure. How would you be? You never talked.

What if the other person thinks of you as someone who will always sort out things if days will be dark again. What if you find out that the other person was wrong. What if you won't be respected like the way you were after you initiate 'the talk'.

EGO. All this is nothing but a bubble of your ego. Which doesn't let you be happy. At peace. Which stopped you from the very beginning to move a step ahead and talk. Just talk. 

The talk doesn't assure you of positive results. It never did. Neither did your short lived assumptions. But you will at least get a clear picture. A clear answer to all your questions. Whether your friendship was worth talking or not. Whether what you two had was worth giving another chance.

Either of the two will happen.

You will either get back with that person. For good and be happy and satisfied about it.

Or a full-stop will shine now on your friendship. A full-stop without assumptions.

Whatever happens, you won't be confused. You won't keep yourself half-satisfied with some stupid assumptions. And my dear, you won't regret the talk.

It will all be worth your feelings.

So, just go out and TALK. FACE TO FACE.

Thank me later!

Needed to get it out of my system.